I absolutely understand the anger and frustration. Its like talking to a brick wall, sometimes.
Sometimes theres also “trick questions” coming from the other side…
“What if you were bit by a snake? Would you take the antivenom even though its made from snakes?” for example.
People who “hate” vegans aren’t going to change their ways. The more they hear it, the more they laugh and dig in their heels.
Others, though, deserve a bit of a better chance.
You can say “That was a cow, once. Someone killed it, most likely after tazing it a bunch of times to get it into the corrals, and then if it was " lucky” it died “quickly” with a bolt through its head. If it was unlucky, it laid suffering while the next ones in line watched what was waiting for them ahead."
OR
you can say “You’re one of those fucking carnist pricks who turns a blind eye to murder. You think raping cows is ok as long as you get your little cheese treat? You think hanging pigs upside down by the feet and slicing their necks is worth your bacon breakfast? You think blending baby chicks in a macerator is fine as long as you get your eggs?”
etc etc…
One is designed to put down the person you’re trying to “convert”, the other is trying to show them whats happening that they’re blind to.
I, for one, if I’m being put down, am not about to side with someone even if I know they’re right. It sucks, but its human nature.
I know your way of putting your points across in this thread isn’t great, because not too long ago I WAS on the other side of the argument. Check my post history, though - I knew/know its wrong to eat meat. I know veganism is the better way of life. I know factory farming is fucked. I know all this.
I also know that when people spoke to me like you do, I failed to take their message on board because they were attacking me, rather than trying to help me.
People like my sister, who has been vegan most of her life, has always been there to answer questions when I had them, and to show me things when I’ve needed to see things… who has had the patience not to rush me into a life-change (Indoctrination into eating meat from a baby isn’t super easy to just change for some people)
People like HER helped me come to the right decision.
It took years, but it happened.
Your approach, I fear, takes years and has the side effect of stopping people even considering veganism when they feel attacked.
I get what you’re saying, the gentle approach is what I took with my wife and what I say to others I know well. With whom I have a rapport, because I can communicate that this is an important issue, that being blase about murder is not ok, in another way.
There is also a distinction to be made with people being ignorant, i. e. those that don’t know that chicks get murdered for egg production or that cows need to be pregnant for milk production (they don’t just do that ) and those that do know about it and still say “but I just couldn’t without my cheese”. The latter is what the person I responded to was saying, “yeah sure I’ll reduce my meat consumption but I still need my cheese”, consciously, wilfully and maliciously prioritizing their treat (because that’s what a cheeseburger is) over the life of cows and their young.
This is the problem with vegetarians. They will absolutely indulge in the violence as long as it’s hidden away. “Oh no not without my choccies, my cheeses, my fried eggs”. While pretending they are against it. It’s maddening and it deserves to be called out.
My intention wasn’t just to insult them for insultings sake, but to call out and draw attention to their concious decision to prioritize their treat over the lifes of the cows needed to produce it. “Treatbrained” is insulting yeah, but it’s also an apt description. Because I don’t think there is a “nice” way of telling someone their behaviour is gross and repugnant. But it’s still important to do it.
For me the comparison is always “what if it were a humans and not animals” and in that case I’d want to throttle the person that prioritizes cheese over moms. The fact that I don’t have that urge speaks more to my speciesism than anything else. Not to say that this would be an appropriate reaction given the need for systemic change, but just to get a glimpse at the kind of violence we are talking about here.
Look, I reckon you’ve explained yourself pretty well here mate…
Its tricky because I disagree with some of what you are saying, but don’t disagree with your views as a whole
The major issue is the subsidisation of the meat and dairy industries.
If there were alternatives available that weren’t twice the price, I’m sure more people out there would at the very least try them and start to slowly shift toward veganism…
The world would be a much, much better place if all the space used for factory farms just grew crops and stored water instead…
The worlds fucked up, mate… I’m glad you’re at least doing the best you can to minimize your personal impact on nature.
I’m also glad others are doing something, even if they are still eating cheese, for example. Slow and steady. The worlds not going to make such drastic change overnight…
I don’t, however, appreciate or see any good in those dickheads who eat burgers in front of people who they know are vegan, for example - or turn up to vegan protests and laugh in their facds and get aggressive, just to upset them. People who just push their views onto others in such malicious and upsetting ways are people who I have a problem with.
Sadly, it’s not only meat eaters who do this sort of malicious view pushing…
But again, you know now everything I think and say on the matters…
I’ll leave with a thank you, to you, for taking the time to talk it out :)
The major issue is the subsidisation of the meat and dairy industries.
your personal impact on nature
It is a major issue but not the major issue, veganism is also not about “impact on nature” in the environmentalist sense but it is at it’s core about animal liberation. About bringing the stupefying amount of violence we enact upon our kind down to zero. It has to be clear always that all animals have a free will and to inhibit that is wrong. This has to be at the core of the discussion and on every ones mind while discussing veganism.
So someone “doing something even if they are still eating cheese” still has a long way to go. Like how smoking one pack a day is better than smoking two packs a day in the technical sense, but practically it’s not something you brag about the way people here have been talking about not eating as many corpses as before (Wow half as many as 10 years ago!! Progress!!!). Sure people will give encouraging words to someone slowly quitting smoking, as they should, but it is always clear that it can’t stop there. And this part seems to be completely lacking from the discussion here.
And, because I’ve seen this example used by non-vegans coming up with excuses for eating cheese, it’s important to note the fact that meat or cheese or whatever is not an addiction. A smoker or alcoholic struggling is struggling of chemical dependency. A non-vegan struggling might be struggling because of systemic issues (availability of medicine, dietary restrictions etc.) but they aren’t struggling because they “crave” it. Any such “craving” is them prioritizing their comfort over someone else’s freedom.
If there were alternatives available that weren’t twice the price, I’m sure more people out there would at the very least try them and start to slowly shift toward veganism
I’m just gonna pick this out because it’s relevant to the cheeseburger example. Most of the time there is no need for an alternative. You can eat burger without cheese, breakfast without eggs, really aside from baking most of the time you can just leave out the non-vegan ingredients and don’t need to substitute it. Cheese in particular is such a sticking point for me because it’s just not necessary. Ever. The only dish where cheese is a legitimate ingredient is casserole and you can then just use nutritional yeast instead.
I absolutely understand the anger and frustration. Its like talking to a brick wall, sometimes. Sometimes theres also “trick questions” coming from the other side… “What if you were bit by a snake? Would you take the antivenom even though its made from snakes?” for example.
People who “hate” vegans aren’t going to change their ways. The more they hear it, the more they laugh and dig in their heels.
Others, though, deserve a bit of a better chance.
You can say “That was a cow, once. Someone killed it, most likely after tazing it a bunch of times to get it into the corrals, and then if it was " lucky” it died “quickly” with a bolt through its head. If it was unlucky, it laid suffering while the next ones in line watched what was waiting for them ahead."
OR
you can say “You’re one of those fucking carnist pricks who turns a blind eye to murder. You think raping cows is ok as long as you get your little cheese treat? You think hanging pigs upside down by the feet and slicing their necks is worth your bacon breakfast? You think blending baby chicks in a macerator is fine as long as you get your eggs?” etc etc…
One is designed to put down the person you’re trying to “convert”, the other is trying to show them whats happening that they’re blind to.
I, for one, if I’m being put down, am not about to side with someone even if I know they’re right. It sucks, but its human nature. I know your way of putting your points across in this thread isn’t great, because not too long ago I WAS on the other side of the argument. Check my post history, though - I knew/know its wrong to eat meat. I know veganism is the better way of life. I know factory farming is fucked. I know all this.
I also know that when people spoke to me like you do, I failed to take their message on board because they were attacking me, rather than trying to help me.
People like my sister, who has been vegan most of her life, has always been there to answer questions when I had them, and to show me things when I’ve needed to see things… who has had the patience not to rush me into a life-change (Indoctrination into eating meat from a baby isn’t super easy to just change for some people) People like HER helped me come to the right decision.
It took years, but it happened.
Your approach, I fear, takes years and has the side effect of stopping people even considering veganism when they feel attacked.
I get what you’re saying, the gentle approach is what I took with my wife and what I say to others I know well. With whom I have a rapport, because I can communicate that this is an important issue, that being blase about murder is not ok, in another way.
There is also a distinction to be made with people being ignorant, i. e. those that don’t know that chicks get murdered for egg production or that cows need to be pregnant for milk production (they don’t just do that
) and those that do know about it and still say “but I just couldn’t without my cheese”. The latter is what the person I responded to was saying, “yeah sure I’ll reduce my meat consumption but I still need my cheese”, consciously, wilfully and maliciously prioritizing their treat (because that’s what a cheeseburger is) over the life of cows and their young.
This is the problem with vegetarians. They will absolutely indulge in the violence as long as it’s hidden away. “Oh no not without my choccies, my cheeses, my fried eggs”. While pretending they are against it. It’s maddening and it deserves to be called out.
My intention wasn’t just to insult them for insultings sake, but to call out and draw attention to their concious decision to prioritize their treat over the lifes of the cows needed to produce it. “Treatbrained” is insulting yeah, but it’s also an apt description. Because I don’t think there is a “nice” way of telling someone their behaviour is gross and repugnant. But it’s still important to do it.
For me the comparison is always “what if it were a humans and not animals” and in that case I’d want to throttle the person that prioritizes cheese over moms. The fact that I don’t have that urge speaks more to my speciesism than anything else. Not to say that this would be an appropriate reaction given the need for systemic change, but just to get a glimpse at the kind of violence we are talking about here.
Look, I reckon you’ve explained yourself pretty well here mate…
Its tricky because I disagree with some of what you are saying, but don’t disagree with your views as a whole
The major issue is the subsidisation of the meat and dairy industries.
If there were alternatives available that weren’t twice the price, I’m sure more people out there would at the very least try them and start to slowly shift toward veganism… The world would be a much, much better place if all the space used for factory farms just grew crops and stored water instead…
The worlds fucked up, mate… I’m glad you’re at least doing the best you can to minimize your personal impact on nature. I’m also glad others are doing something, even if they are still eating cheese, for example. Slow and steady. The worlds not going to make such drastic change overnight…
I don’t, however, appreciate or see any good in those dickheads who eat burgers in front of people who they know are vegan, for example - or turn up to vegan protests and laugh in their facds and get aggressive, just to upset them. People who just push their views onto others in such malicious and upsetting ways are people who I have a problem with. Sadly, it’s not only meat eaters who do this sort of malicious view pushing…
But again, you know now everything I think and say on the matters…
I’ll leave with a thank you, to you, for taking the time to talk it out :)
Sorry I have more thoughts. On
It is a major issue but not the major issue, veganism is also not about “impact on nature” in the environmentalist sense but it is at it’s core about animal liberation. About bringing the stupefying amount of violence we enact upon our kind down to zero. It has to be clear always that all animals have a free will and to inhibit that is wrong. This has to be at the core of the discussion and on every ones mind while discussing veganism.
So someone “doing something even if they are still eating cheese” still has a long way to go. Like how smoking one pack a day is better than smoking two packs a day in the technical sense, but practically it’s not something you brag about the way people here have been talking about not eating as many corpses as before (Wow half as many as 10 years ago!! Progress!!!). Sure people will give encouraging words to someone slowly quitting smoking, as they should, but it is always clear that it can’t stop there. And this part seems to be completely lacking from the discussion here.
And, because I’ve seen this example used by non-vegans coming up with excuses for eating cheese, it’s important to note the fact that meat or cheese or whatever is not an addiction. A smoker or alcoholic struggling is struggling of chemical dependency. A non-vegan struggling might be struggling because of systemic issues (availability of medicine, dietary restrictions etc.) but they aren’t struggling because they “crave” it. Any such “craving” is them prioritizing their comfort over someone else’s freedom.
I’m just gonna pick this out because it’s relevant to the cheeseburger example. Most of the time there is no need for an alternative. You can eat burger without cheese, breakfast without eggs, really aside from baking most of the time you can just leave out the non-vegan ingredients and don’t need to substitute it. Cheese in particular is such a sticking point for me because it’s just not necessary. Ever. The only dish where cheese is a legitimate ingredient is casserole and you can then just use nutritional yeast instead.