• JackBinimbul@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    7 days ago

    Wife used to be a teacher. Key word USED to.

    Had a student who regularly threatened to kill her and destroyed her classroom at least twice a week. She would have to clear all the students into the hall while he went on a rampage in there.

    The AP would just come down and give him video games to “calm him down”. Guess who learned to freak out for rewards?

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    8 days ago

    People will do anything but seek out a therapist. The kid may have a behavioral disorder, and seeking referrals for conduct disorder or something is usually a joint effort since parents get defensive even when such a disorder is often biological, like depression.

    Or, y’know, zero tolerance bullshit and the kid gets expelled. That’s more common in the US.

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    7 days ago

    If you need a calming banana to not punch people not mistreating you in the face you are a garbage person

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        7 days ago

        Nah, even as a child that’s unacceptable. My kid is only 5 and I don’t let them hit people, and punish them when they do. The response from the parent shows the apple fell straight down

        Edit: if you think this is advocating violence against children, go touch grass or read a single book on parenting ffs. Natural/logical consequences make good punishments for misbehavior, and have gone a long way to helping my kid not act out (and are nonviolent, since that has to be spelled out)

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            5 days ago

            It IS normal to punish 5 year olds. You don’t have to use violence to punish them. 5 years old is enough to understand consequences.

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          7 days ago

          I never said it was acceptable. Do you call you’re children garbage when they misbehave? Does their behavior improve after you tell your child that you think they’re garbage? I don’t let my children hit anyone either, I just don’t call them garbage if they do.

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            5 days ago

            Normal people don’t break the teachers glasses and punch them in the face. This is already major behavioral problems if your kids are school age and doing this.

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                2 days ago

                As someone who was a child and therefore interacted with thousands of other children in public school I can confirm some children are garbage. Do you not remember school? Were all of those people ok?

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                  I remember troubled kids that didn’t know how to handle what they where dealing with at home and internally. I don’t remember any garbage kids, no. The idea that a child was just born garbage is just cruel, I hope one day you can learn to forgive and let go of that hate inside.

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          7 days ago

          Yeah, it’s unacceptable, but it’s also unacceptable to call a child a “garbage person” for acting like a child.

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            5 days ago

            I wouldn’t call a particular kid a garbage person to or around that kid in consideration for the effect it might have on that kid. Between you and me kids who do that are a fucked up mess who probably aren’t going to end well.

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            Regardless of the labelling, punching someone in the face is absolutely not “acting like a child”, it’s acting like a garbage person. That shit should not be tolerated or excused away to complain about labelling.

            And honestly, excusing away a kid battering their teacher as “acting like a child” is pretty goddamned unacceptable too.

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              My little brother threw a chair at his preschool teacher. This is absolutely shit kids do, that they need to be taught is unacceptable. You don’t teach kids to be better by writing them off as garbage humans, because they’re still learning.

              If you call your five year old garbage for acting out, you’re a shitty parent.

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                5 days ago

                How old is your little brother and how is his life going? If its going well I’m pretty sure it involved some intensive parenting or counseling.

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                6 days ago

                You can call a kid being a garbage person a garbage person. Doesn’t mean you won’t help them and correct the behavior.

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    8 days ago

    I don’t really see the issue here. Kid could be acting out due to low blood sugar. It’s certainly a reasonable place to start.

    Did the teacher expect the parents to say, “Sorry about that, we just bought new jumper cables to beat him with so it won’t be a problem anymore.”

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      7 days ago

      Functional people don’t punch their teacher in the face because they don’t have enough to eat. He may have had low blood sugar AND a behavioral or mental issue that needs to be addressed.

      At minimum I would expect a letter from the kid as to what they did was wrong and an apology from both parents and kid. I would expect an offer to pay for the glasses. I would expect the kid to be punished severely. A good example would be selling the kids ps5 to pay for the glasses and not getting him another console this year and making him spend his free time doing unpleasant chores for a month with no outings or rewards of any kind.

      This is both non-violent, moral, memorable, directly exemplifies the direct connection between wrongdoing and restitution. It doesn’t assign blame to a condition as if being hungry forced him to punch his teacher in the face.