• JasonDJ@lemmy.zip
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    Ehhh…it breaks the half-plus-7 rule (I’d call 37 ‘late 30s’)…but it beats 20s. I’m only forty and I can barely relate to my 20-something BILs. I couldn’t imagine dating someone in their 20s, and not just because I’m happily married. The culture gap is so real. I could relate to X so much more than Z.

    Still…even mid-30s doesn’t give much time to plant the seed before you have to worry about the first frost. You gotta sow while the soil is warm. Having your own kid is great and all but maybe look for a divorcee/widow with a toddler…

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      Also seems kinda cruel having a kid knowing you’ll statistically die before they even graduate high school.

      If he met someone today and had a kid by 61 by the time that kid graduates high school he’d be 79.

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        My dad was 52 when I was born. Getting real tired of developing chronic conditions that are associated with advanced paternal age, ngl.

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        Statistically his mean life expectancy is ~20 years left. Keep in mind as you get older your life expectancy goes up since you’ve already survived what killed many others younger

        He’d be expected to die shortly after sending his kid off to college

        Source: https://www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4c6.html

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            Aging lies at the intersection of genetics and environment, which implies that 1) not everyone ages at the same rate, and 2) by optimizing the environment your body operates in (e.g., optimizing sleep, exercise, nutrition, supplements, and drugs ), you can optimize regeneration/repair and effectively slow the rate of aging. I’m lucky enough to have really good genetics for aging and I take exceptional care of myself, optimizing the above parameters, including the use of rapamycin. I have a long line of ancestors that have lived well into their 90s, even back in the 1700s, so I think there is a good chance my corpse will hold out long enough to see my offspring into adulthood.

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      Same, I’m just getting to forty and the older I get the less dating someone half my age makes any kind of sense. I have patients that I have seen from their teens and they’re now in their mid twenties. Thinking about them as anything other than kids just seems unnatural and morally decrepit.