Does that disqualify someone? No.
Would I be interested? Also no.
For me it sure does. Fuck ass people insisting that it’s not okay to disqualify people from your dating pool is stupid
Everybody’s always saying you can deny a relationship with anyone for any reason until it’s a reason they personally don’t agree with.
I mean, any reason for not wanting a relationship is a good reason because a relationship where one person doesn’t even really want it is going to be a shit relationship.
That said, I might still judge you if your reasons are shitty.
my favorite is people who say they don’t care about the reason, and then use the same reason to reject people.
or who whine about being rejected for a reason, and use that same reason to reject people.
The idea that vaginas stretch out is kinda debunked.
Now assholes on the other hand…
I don’t think people caring about body count has anything to do with physical things other than drastically increased odds of STIs and certain cancers.
I think mature adults realize that sex is never just sex, it forms attachments whether you want it or not. Screwing around forming and cutting off attachments constantly kind of fucks with your capacity to emotionally invest in an actual relationship.
Yeah, it’s more about the fact that it’s really reckless behavior for tons of reasons for me. I don’t need someone like that in my life. Literally every really promiscuous person I know is living a train wreck of a life. Most of them are pretty shitty people otherwise too. Some of them have grown out of it, but with that they became more stable in their relationships and aren’t sleeping around like they used to. I’m not saying it’s impossible to sleep around and not have tons of issues but I haven’t witnessed it so to me it’s a red flag.
i think the way you’re describing the process as “screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments” really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn’t really make it a “cut off” relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it
just because it’s a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you’ve encountered, doesn’t make it a universal truth
Sure, you CAN do these things. That doesn’t mean it’s not diminishing your capacity to be emotionally invested in your relationships.
We can spend all day blowharding and traversing all the layers of subconscious processes abstracted into social constructs, how we are able to rationalize anything if we want to, and so on. But I think you can only get so far with that, when all I’m trying to describe is something pretty much everyone already understands intuitively.
“You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”
Works with gender/role flipped too, obviously.
i genuinely do not “intuitively understand” this idea. there’s nothing contradictory about being a hoe and a housewife
can you like, explain this? i really don’t understand how having multiple sexual relationships, specifically, diminishes one’s ability to have emotionally fulfilling relationships. if anything, i might be inclined to think they would have more emotionally fulfilling relationships 💀
I’m gonna be dead honest with you. The reason you think that high bodycount means that you’re somehow fundamentally different as a person e.g. incapable of being a “housewife” is because you do not have a high bodycount yourself and its incomprehensible for you, when in reality it’s really just not that big a deal.
No one with a high bodycount thinks of themselves as having a high bodycount. At one time all those people had a low bodycount and they were the same people then as they were after they had a high bodycount.
At most they’re “sexually experienced”, in gamer terms they’re the people with 500 games in their steam library and to them the average person is kinda like the person who only plays F2P mobile gachas, so yeah they’ll have higher standards but they also probably know what’s good and what works.
None of this is inherently good or bad, it just is.
Not everyone does form those attatchemnts. There are plenty of poeole out there who can just have sex and have a good time and move on.
Good point, it also helps filter out people who are innately mental.
That cuts both ways. Who wants someone that becomes obsessed with them. So small body count is out too.
truth bomb fr, and this one gets exponentially worse the older you are
If your brain one days goes like ‘I should fuck a thousand guys’ and you don’t immediately shut it down, there’s something terribly wrong with you, and that’s before accounting for the STI you are absolutely carrying.
Now. Clearly some incels have an irrational low idea of what a ‘normal’ bodycount should be, but 1000 in one day ain’t it either.
people who do professional sex work all have ‘terrible wrong’ with them?
I’m not disagreeing with the point of your statement, but I do want to clarify that vaginas absolutely stretch, just not permanently. You’ll have a very different experience if you work up to fisting over a couple of hours vs. launching right into it, because vaginas loosen with arousal.
The important thing is that they are elastic - they don’t stay stretched. They’re not like sweaters that stay stretched out forever after someone large wears them, more like rubber bands that stretch temporarily before returning to their typical size. I think that’s why OP used the term “stretch out,” as too many people seem to think once a vagina stretches, it’s a permanent change. It’s such a weird misconception.
Giving birth stretches a vagina more than any penis (or fist) ever could. Though birth can make some changes that last, it’s more like “Now I need a larger size menstrual cup” than “Now penises just slide back out,” as the popular belief would have people believe.
If they don’t stretch out, then why do some doctors offer complimentary tightening surgery on postpartum mothers?
Weirdly, it’s actually the same reason that banks used to refuse to let single women have credit cards
I don’t know, but I read that vinegar not only clears any bad smells but also tightens it up.
no
I don’t think you know what you’re talking about or your fellow downvoters. I read that in a reputable publication over well about three decades back and I take their word over some naysayer online with no backup information or sources.
Not only that but I’ve had women tell me it’s true that vinegar cleans smells and tightens the area. You are not a reputable source.
When it comes to women’s health advice, I think modern naysayers are more reputable than any source was in the 1900s
I read this in the late 90s. And I’m still siding with them over some bandwagon jumper on her off the fucking internets. You’re not a reliable source. Someone else said something that sounded authoritative so perhaps nevertheless.
Also I don’t give a shit. I was just sharing what I read from an authoritative source, you can piss all the way off.
This …line of thinking is why my step father wouldnt let me or my sister shower while on the rag in our teens. He had some old ass info, ignored doctors, and me and my sister suffered at the hands of his misinformation. He wouldnt even buy us tampons or pads and we used paper towels. I have no idea why he said we couldnt shower while having a period. The man was a fool and now lives in isolation. anyway…
ita okay to be wrong, but its not okay to spread that info. it can harm women.
The same reason they try to keep women from getting tubal ligation or having the uterus removed: sexism.
Anon is an incel
You could comment this on 90% of the posts in this community. Frankly, I like that far more than the “fake and gay” meme.
Fake: Anon never visited Reddit
Gay: Anon thinks about 1000 men
If it were a man fucking 1000 girls in a day, we’d all celebrate. What’s more unattractive than a high body count? Insecurity.
If it were a man fucking 1000 girls in a day, we’d all celebrate.
This statement makes me doubt that you know any actual human people irl.
How are all of you so blind to not see the obvious double standard. Many men have been celebrated for their promiscuity and even their sinister actions. Trump is one of these men and managed to win the US election twice. It’s worth celebrating Bonnie blue for at least doing it for the hustle.
Trump is celebrated for being a pedo and a cheat? What reality you live on?
The left is hounding everyone about how it makes him a shit person, and the right pretends it never happened in order to not hurt his image.
There’s nothing worth celebrating in a person deciding that fucking 1000 people in a day is a life goal
He blatantly gloats about his lifestyle and while today he’s shy about Epstein and young girls he certainly wasn’t back on campaign in 2016. The point being that men receive a less critical eye regarding sexual promiscuity compared to women. I trust you get that and you’re just being difficult to frustrate me. I’ll let it pass.
him being proud of being a pedo freak and a cheat doesn’t mean he is being celebrated for it.
You’re fucking insane if you think a guy fucking 1000 girls in a day as some sort of publicity stunt wouldn’t be as mocked as the other way around.
It wouldn’t be talked about with as much controversy, no way. It certainly wouldn’t have the same staying power that Bonnie’s scene has managed.
No, did you get your idea of gender roles from reading feminist books in the 90’s while never having actually set foot on earth’s surface from your flying saucer? A lot of men and women would have various kinds of issues if you were a man who fucked 1000 women in one day you fucking space alien.
It’s absolutely a double standard mate, don’t be daft.
tell that to all the women in my life i’ve dated who think i’m a filthy slut for sleeping with more than a handful of women.
and who had more partners than me. almost as if the double-standard is the person’s projected shame.
I’m sure the two girls you experienced this with are a fair measure of half the human population. You’re so wise, what other enlightened opinions do you have?
it was a lot more than two.
I am a slut.
wow, wow, buddy. this is the internet.
we can’t have reasonable and common sense takes here. JUST GENDER RAGE.
should report you for HATE speech, with all this reasonable commentary you have here.
People just love to be offended by something a random stranger did 10’000 km away.
yeah, but how else am i going to get off on how morally superior I am? by interacting with my neighbors?
Logistically questionable, but if true than who gives a shit?
According to Wikipedia it’s true, and as a world record attempt a notary must have been present to count the men. There’s another job I don’t envy.
I don’t get the point of notaries. Anyone could be a notary – you just have to pinky promise that you saw something happen under oath
Yeah I mean you pay money and take a little course to become a notary and you have to reup every year (or three years? I can’t remember). The point is you take on legal liability. A notary cannot claim, “i didn’t realize, I didn’t know, I didn’t double check.” Most of the money you pay is in liability insurance in case you screw up. Because if a notary stamps their name to something false, they bear the legal liability which is enough for a notary to not take the risk of flippantly stamping things that are untrue.
You can also legally marry people.
There are also legal limits to how much you can charge (like 10 bucks and document or something. It’s not much). Since each stamp doesn’t earn much, but the liability could cost you a lot, it keeps notaries pretty honest. It’s a decent system.
Mostly only nerds are notaries anyway, so the promising and putting your name to something does some of the heavy lifting by itself
Interesting. Yes I was thinking that it sounds like the perfect job for control freaks
you’re an incentive if you care about bodycount
Maybe, but I do care about orders of magnitude in bodycount. Being in the low single digits myself I definitely prefer partners that do not have a bodycount three orders of magnitude higher.
I definitely prefer partners that do not have a bodycount three orders of magnitude higher.
And didn’t attain it in “one sitting,” i.e one session just to have sex with 1000 people. I don’t think i believe she even did that.
It’s the record attempt that’s a red flag for me. Why would anyone do that to themselves?
I mean to me it’s no different than someone attempting a record number of kisses, handshakes, high-5s, haircuts, judo throws… or some other physical interaction. It just doesn’t really matter and has no big significance.
you can’t tell the difference between sex and a high-five or a judo throw?
depends on how you throw em I guess
Naw im down with that. It would have to be actively harmful to others for me to not respect an attempt for the world’s somethingest something.
Probably wouldn’t want to date her, but I respect the effort.
It’s still hard to gauge the stereotypical Lemmy user yet
Neurodivergent middle-aged Linux using anti-AI nostalgiagoggle-wearing very online privacy enthusiast with some degree of fixation on tech, be that privately (their hobby) or professionally (their job).
i keep assuming they are like 22-26 given how massively immature/insecure most of their takes on the world are.
plus don’t forget they are anti-capitalist, or something.
