I agree, the weird thing is that this view seems to be changing among leftist people. I live in a very leftist area in a leftist city in a leftist country and the past ~5 years whenever the topic of age difference has come up among people my age (35) or younger it’s been increasingly “they’re both adults, nothing wrong about it”. And I just can’t agree, it grosses me out and feels wrong in the deepest parts of my soul. Yeah, they’re both adults (when it comes to the youngest being 18+) but that can’t be the only thing that decides if it is or feels wrong.
Even then, there are 18 year olds I’ve met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don’t seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship.
I agree, the weird thing is that this view seems to be changing among leftist people. I live in a very leftist area in a leftist city in a leftist country and the past ~5 years whenever the topic of age difference has come up among people my age (35) or younger it’s been increasingly “they’re both adults, nothing wrong about it”. And I just can’t agree, it grosses me out and feels wrong in the deepest parts of my soul. Yeah, they’re both adults (when it comes to the youngest being 18+) but that can’t be the only thing that decides if it is or feels wrong.
I think our idea of “adult” is wrong. The age that your brain finishes maturing is 25, not 18.
Even then, there are 18 year olds I’ve met that have the maturity of a 25 year old and 25 year olds that just don’t seem to have a frontal lobe. Age is an important heuristic but certainly not the only important factor when you are thinking about emotional maturity and power dynamics in a relationship.
Someone signing a lifelong legal binding agreement at 18 is pretty wild
Like getting your driver’s license and heading on the autobaun first thing
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should
18-25, 7 years. That’s half their current life and basically all they can remember. Just to the point where you should really think about marriage.
No one should feel obligated to get married. If that person cannot wait 7 years to tie the knot then they aren’t ready for the rest of the ~55+ years.