Honestly, I’m not a woman, but if I was going to meet a stranger in a coffee shop or something, I’d bring a friend along and not say anything, they’d sit at a different table and wait to make sure everything’s chill. If the other party knows they’re being watched, they might not act as they usually would, so I wouldn’t necessarily know if the lack of creep vibes is an act. But that’s just me.
… And that would be the winning move, for everyone involved. The woman is safer. The man doesn’t pay one extra drink/plate (why it’s always the man that has to pay in the US, I don’t understand). The friend doesn’t feel like it’s awkwardly in the middle of a date.
That’s fine. The problem is just bringing a friend who’s just sort of there in the middle. What’s the protocol here, do I ignore the friend, include the friend in conversation, what?
The whole point of meeting in a public place is so everyone feels safe, then if everything goes well you move on to subsequent dates and eventually something more intimate but how long’s the friend gonna be there for; because if they are there for anything other than the first date, then you’ve got a problem.
Honestly, I’m not a woman, but if I was going to meet a stranger in a coffee shop or something, I’d bring a friend along and not say anything, they’d sit at a different table and wait to make sure everything’s chill. If the other party knows they’re being watched, they might not act as they usually would, so I wouldn’t necessarily know if the lack of creep vibes is an act. But that’s just me.
… And that would be the winning move, for everyone involved. The woman is safer. The man doesn’t pay one extra drink/plate (why it’s always the man that has to pay in the US, I don’t understand). The friend doesn’t feel like it’s awkwardly in the middle of a date.
That’s fine. The problem is just bringing a friend who’s just sort of there in the middle. What’s the protocol here, do I ignore the friend, include the friend in conversation, what?
The whole point of meeting in a public place is so everyone feels safe, then if everything goes well you move on to subsequent dates and eventually something more intimate but how long’s the friend gonna be there for; because if they are there for anything other than the first date, then you’ve got a problem.