there are about a hundred different ways to deal with this.
as a man, I dealt with things like this when I met dates from long distances.
write a note of who you’re meeting, when and where
include times you’ll meet and be returning
tell several friends or family members. give them copies of the note.
give them written instructions that if they don’t hear from you in x hours/days to contact police
I met my fair share of crazy women in the early 2000s and let my dick lead me into some of the darkest holes I could have disappeared in.
if you feel unsafe, don’t go to a bar. grab a coffee. meet at a library. go somewhere you trust and know the people around you.
if you want to bring a friend, do it. just don’t get so bent out of shape when the other person rejects you. do like they felt the need to do, move the fuck on.
How do any of your bullet points prevent a woman from being raped and murdered? Those only apply if something has already gone terribly wrong. You know what does help? A Buddy system. Someone who can step in if the woman is drugged or incapacitated. A potential witness to a crime as a deterrent. Strength in numbers my dude.
What was discussed here wasn’t just bringing someone along for safety. You can bring someone along and have them sit at another table to keep an eye on you. That’s fine. But when you agree to go on a date with someone, the social expectation is that you are agreeing to meet one-on-one with someone. It’s a chance for potential romantic partners to have a close and intimate one-on-one discussion. This isn’t possible if a third person is present.
It’s perfectly fine to still have someone at the table. But you need to let all parties know in advance.
Romantic consent isn’t as serious a thing as sexual consent, but it still matters. People have a right to romantic consent. It would be wrong to force someone to go on a date against their will. And just like it’s a violation of consent for a guy to remove a condom prior to sex (changing what was agreed to,) it is a violation of romantic consent to completely change the agreed-upon form of the date.
If I were going on a first date with a woman and she wanted to bring a friend for safety that sits at a different table I’d be 100% in support of it. I’d want her to feel safe, because that’s a necessary first step to building any kind of relationship.
and that’s where your line is. don’t make yourself out to be some kind of a white knight though because you’re willing to put out the barest amount of effort.
personally, I wouldn’t care. the difference is you want to be commended for your actions and expect reciprocation where most couldn’t give two fucks. why else would you bring it up anyway?
I think you’re kind of a creep for bringing it up but you do you.
slow your roll there porky.
there are about a hundred different ways to deal with this.
as a man, I dealt with things like this when I met dates from long distances.
I met my fair share of crazy women in the early 2000s and let my dick lead me into some of the darkest holes I could have disappeared in.
if you feel unsafe, don’t go to a bar. grab a coffee. meet at a library. go somewhere you trust and know the people around you.
if you want to bring a friend, do it. just don’t get so bent out of shape when the other person rejects you. do like they felt the need to do, move the fuck on.
How do any of your bullet points prevent a woman from being raped and murdered? Those only apply if something has already gone terribly wrong. You know what does help? A Buddy system. Someone who can step in if the woman is drugged or incapacitated. A potential witness to a crime as a deterrent. Strength in numbers my dude.
What was discussed here wasn’t just bringing someone along for safety. You can bring someone along and have them sit at another table to keep an eye on you. That’s fine. But when you agree to go on a date with someone, the social expectation is that you are agreeing to meet one-on-one with someone. It’s a chance for potential romantic partners to have a close and intimate one-on-one discussion. This isn’t possible if a third person is present.
It’s perfectly fine to still have someone at the table. But you need to let all parties know in advance.
Romantic consent isn’t as serious a thing as sexual consent, but it still matters. People have a right to romantic consent. It would be wrong to force someone to go on a date against their will. And just like it’s a violation of consent for a guy to remove a condom prior to sex (changing what was agreed to,) it is a violation of romantic consent to completely change the agreed-upon form of the date.
Consent matters. Learn to respect it.
If I were going on a first date with a woman and she wanted to bring a friend for safety that sits at a different table I’d be 100% in support of it. I’d want her to feel safe, because that’s a necessary first step to building any kind of relationship.
and that’s where your line is. don’t make yourself out to be some kind of a white knight though because you’re willing to put out the barest amount of effort.
personally, I wouldn’t care. the difference is you want to be commended for your actions and expect reciprocation where most couldn’t give two fucks. why else would you bring it up anyway?
I think you’re kind of a creep for bringing it up but you do you.