I love kids, being a parent was the only “dream” I was really sure of when I was younger. But I can barely afford to support myself, and as a woman in my upper-30s I can see the door of opportunity closing rapidly.
Thankfully, not all is lost. Working in education means I get to do my part to “put better and smart people out there” without having my own kids. It still hurts that I can’t have the life I wanted, but at least I have the ability to positively influence future generations.
The “door of opportunity closing rapidly” in the upper thirties suggests she’s worried she won’t be able to afford kids before she’d have trouble with pregnancy.
Which, yeah, adoption or fostering could address part of that - but some people also want to experience the biological part of that process, and it sucks when they don’t really get that choice
It’s both. Whether making a baby the old fashioned way or adopting, there’s an upper age limit to when most people would prefer to have kids. Adoption is expensive as hell. I might have the money to adopt by the time I’m 50, but I don’t want to be nearing 70 when my kid graduates high school.
I love kids, being a parent was the only “dream” I was really sure of when I was younger. But I can barely afford to support myself, and as a woman in my upper-30s I can see the door of opportunity closing rapidly.
Thankfully, not all is lost. Working in education means I get to do my part to “put better and smart people out there” without having my own kids. It still hurts that I can’t have the life I wanted, but at least I have the ability to positively influence future generations.
Adoption can still be an option, maybe?
I don’t think that their problem is not being able to reproduce, it’s that they don’t have enough money to afford life if they have children.
The “door of opportunity closing rapidly” in the upper thirties suggests she’s worried she won’t be able to afford kids before she’d have trouble with pregnancy.
Which, yeah, adoption or fostering could address part of that - but some people also want to experience the biological part of that process, and it sucks when they don’t really get that choice
It’s both. Whether making a baby the old fashioned way or adopting, there’s an upper age limit to when most people would prefer to have kids. Adoption is expensive as hell. I might have the money to adopt by the time I’m 50, but I don’t want to be nearing 70 when my kid graduates high school.