If all the opinions you’re getting come from a reduced slice of mankind, you can’t really conclude that you yourself are in the wrong (or that you yourself are the one who is right) - logically you just don’t have enough information to determine it for sure.
(The most obvious example being living in a cult, but even just living surrounded by people with just one set of political beliefs is another example if it - if the opinions you get come from a narrow slice of very similar people, the fact that you don’t follow their values might actually be due to their values being shit rather than your having a problem. Another much broader example is how being an Introvert isn’t wrong just because over 2/3 of people are Extroverts who tend to assume “everybody likes to go to parties” or something such)
I would say that the healthy posture is the “reflect a little” part in what you wrote: take the feedback in, ponder on it and really look into yourself, but don’t just accept as correct the majority opinion in your social circle. Such introspective posture is especially good when coupled to the willingness to accept that sometimes we just don’t know and can’t really make a determination either way (something which in my experience is pretty uncommon) - rephrasing what I wrote above, sometimes the “sample” from were you’re taking those outside opinions is far from representative from the general mankind.
To an extent imo. If you keep hearing the same things from everyone you might wanna reflect a little.
Assuming you have a broad life experience.
If all the opinions you’re getting come from a reduced slice of mankind, you can’t really conclude that you yourself are in the wrong (or that you yourself are the one who is right) - logically you just don’t have enough information to determine it for sure.
(The most obvious example being living in a cult, but even just living surrounded by people with just one set of political beliefs is another example if it - if the opinions you get come from a narrow slice of very similar people, the fact that you don’t follow their values might actually be due to their values being shit rather than your having a problem. Another much broader example is how being an Introvert isn’t wrong just because over 2/3 of people are Extroverts who tend to assume “everybody likes to go to parties” or something such)
I would say that the healthy posture is the “reflect a little” part in what you wrote: take the feedback in, ponder on it and really look into yourself, but don’t just accept as correct the majority opinion in your social circle. Such introspective posture is especially good when coupled to the willingness to accept that sometimes we just don’t know and can’t really make a determination either way (something which in my experience is pretty uncommon) - rephrasing what I wrote above, sometimes the “sample” from were you’re taking those outside opinions is far from representative from the general mankind.