But in personal comunication it can be badly percieved, you could be seen as that person who only talks to ask for a favor (wherever it is real or not).
But it can also be badly perceived when you go through the motions of exchanging pleasantries instead of just being up front about needing a favour. In either case, pleasantries are nice, but pleasantries that are being done just for the sake of pleasantries can be seen as rude and trying to establish needless or false familiarity.
True, it depends of the person. Sometimes I’m talked to just so I do something.
In my case, I prefer pleasantries and asked favour in the same message. Being at least recognized as a person and know what’s up ASAP. It faster for them anyway.
you could be seen as that person who only talks to ask for a favor (wherever it is real or not).
If you are this way you’ll be perceived as such regardless of if you do small talk first. I have a relative that only ever talks to me if they want something and it’s fucking annoying to wait for the shoe to drop when they try to chit chat beforehand. Just get to the point if that’s all you really care about.
I’d say this works and should apply it at work.
But in personal comunication it can be badly percieved, you could be seen as that person who only talks to ask for a favor (wherever it is real or not).
But it can also be badly perceived when you go through the motions of exchanging pleasantries instead of just being up front about needing a favour. In either case, pleasantries are nice, but pleasantries that are being done just for the sake of pleasantries can be seen as rude and trying to establish needless or false familiarity.
True, it depends of the person. Sometimes I’m talked to just so I do something.
In my case, I prefer pleasantries and asked favour in the same message. Being at least recognized as a person and know what’s up ASAP. It faster for them anyway.
If you are this way you’ll be perceived as such regardless of if you do small talk first. I have a relative that only ever talks to me if they want something and it’s fucking annoying to wait for the shoe to drop when they try to chit chat beforehand. Just get to the point if that’s all you really care about.
Indeed. I meant some people confuse being direct with being rude and uninterested in the other person.
I’m not trying to be rude, but I am entirely uninterested in my coworkers.