She’s trying to resale a spur of the moment gift. She doesn’t sound like someone who’s got things together. Wouldn’t the socially acceptable thing to do would be to decline the gift or accept the shoes and regift them / donate them? Idk the response, “let me get cash for those.” isn’t a great look. That’s why the lady snatched them back.
You ever read that Christmas story about the poor couple that sells things that are important to them to get something nice for the other?
Now imagine selling a random gift to get money to use on commodities like food, rent, or utilities.
We can’t know what that person needed the money for. While overall I agree with the reaction of the poster, I can get off my high horse long enough to acknowledge we don’t know the whole situation or the economic position of the family.
Maybe she would buy smokes, maybe she’d pay rent. We don’t know.
As an anecdote from my childhood, we were poor. My parents often spent what little they had to get nice things for me and my sister. It came at a detriment to our home. We had much of what we wanted, but we lacked what we needed. As an adult now I would invest in the environment first.
an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately
if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i’d first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i’d feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me
I’m not arguing the status of the recevier. I’m questioning someone who’s response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn’t hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back.
Of course they do, they are designed to be that way - they are super cheap and sell you a chance for a better life. They are made to exploit people that are permanently stuck in poverty hell and hope is the only thing left.
Once again, blaming the victims and not the oppressor.
When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way?
I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me.
Wheat Thins? Probably a pack a cigarettes and a scratch lotto ticket.
Don’t be an ass.
She’s trying to resale a spur of the moment gift. She doesn’t sound like someone who’s got things together. Wouldn’t the socially acceptable thing to do would be to decline the gift or accept the shoes and regift them / donate them? Idk the response, “let me get cash for those.” isn’t a great look. That’s why the lady snatched them back.
You ever read that Christmas story about the poor couple that sells things that are important to them to get something nice for the other?
Now imagine selling a random gift to get money to use on commodities like food, rent, or utilities.
We can’t know what that person needed the money for. While overall I agree with the reaction of the poster, I can get off my high horse long enough to acknowledge we don’t know the whole situation or the economic position of the family.
Maybe she would buy smokes, maybe she’d pay rent. We don’t know.
As an anecdote from my childhood, we were poor. My parents often spent what little they had to get nice things for me and my sister. It came at a detriment to our home. We had much of what we wanted, but we lacked what we needed. As an adult now I would invest in the environment first.
The story is O. Henry’s “The Gift of the Magi”
It’s a short one, if you haven’t read it yet.
an important part of the story above is her saying that she intends to sell those immediately
if i got a very expensive gift when i needed money i’d first yk, think about it a bit. most likely i’d feel guilty selling said gift, and i 100% would not brag about it to the person who gave it to me
It’s either greed or desperation. We don’t have the information to know which
I’m not arguing the status of the recevier. I’m questioning someone who’s response to a gift is immediately the monetary outcome. Your example was them selling things that were important to them. This person had not even full received the gift and to the face of the person giving the gift, sad something so socially unacceptable the gift was taken back. Do you think the gift would have been taken back if the giver thought the gift would provide a much needed meal? The tone of the tweet would leave anyone to thing the giver didn’t hold a high opion of the other woman if she was willing to take them back.
He’s not being an ass you are. He’s being realistic to the situation. Just cause you don’t like it doesn’t mean you need to call people an ass.
POOR PEOPLE WOULDN’T BE POOR IF THEY WEREN’T STUPID, LAZY AND ALCOHOLIC, AMIRITE??? STUPID DUMB POOR PEOPLE
My parents were firmly middle class, divorced though.
My mom would absolutely do something like this to be able to buy herself something nice instead.
That’s a bummer, sorry. Not every mom is your mom though.
Eh, I’ve lived in plenty of poor neighborhoods. The lotto tickets basically coat the gas station parking lot like a paper mache.
Of course they do, they are designed to be that way - they are super cheap and sell you a chance for a better life. They are made to exploit people that are permanently stuck in poverty hell and hope is the only thing left.
Once again, blaming the victims and not the oppressor.
When did I blame the victim? Why even frame it that way?
I grew up poor and around poor people in poor neighborhoods. It’s what the poor do. You wanna argue about improving their lot, sure, but half the mothers in my neighborhood would sell anything they could for a hit of hope or faux luxury. My own mother stole from me.