Not all of us are graced with parents who teach (and maybe even know) basic etiquette. And some people are stuck in survival mode, it’s easy to get there. I speak from experience. I get you 100%. And I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m simply musing that none of us are omniscient, and as an old saying goes, “but for the grace of the Creator, there go I.” I guess in modern times it would be more palatably universally phrased, “but for the grace of good upbringing and daily working on myself, there go I.” And like I fail plenty too. So I’m not pointing fingers. I’m still doing my shadow work.
I hear ya! I think we pretty much agree on this. I would be hard pressed to know exactly how I would act in this same situation, I don’t think I would snatch the shoes back, but it’s good to remember that every one of us have hidden struggles.
I appreciate your viewpoints, especially appreciate you calling out/standing up to misogyny. It’s a real problem, ableism is banned, c and b permitted, defended. And at my age I have to work to root out its internalization. Bless you.
See, I would view this as a gracious way of accepting the gift.
Yes but even so, a gift once given is none of my business. But I’m well aware I think differently than most people.
Eta: because a lot of people are shamed into hiding genuine need.
The scenario is during the act of giving the gift. I think the way it was phrased was rude, not the actual act of reselling the shoes.
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I absolutely agree with you.
Not all of us are graced with parents who teach (and maybe even know) basic etiquette. And some people are stuck in survival mode, it’s easy to get there. I speak from experience. I get you 100%. And I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m simply musing that none of us are omniscient, and as an old saying goes, “but for the grace of the Creator, there go I.” I guess in modern times it would be more palatably universally phrased, “but for the grace of good upbringing and daily working on myself, there go I.” And like I fail plenty too. So I’m not pointing fingers. I’m still doing my shadow work.
I hear ya! I think we pretty much agree on this. I would be hard pressed to know exactly how I would act in this same situation, I don’t think I would snatch the shoes back, but it’s good to remember that every one of us have hidden struggles.
Thanks for your viewpoint here!
I appreciate your viewpoints, especially appreciate you calling out/standing up to misogyny. It’s a real problem, ableism is banned, c and b permitted, defended. And at my age I have to work to root out its internalization. Bless you.
I always appreciate seeing your username pop up in discussion as well :)
❤️