• fizzle@quokk.au
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    7 days ago

    Im not so sure about that. Of course its fine to not be attracted to different traits, thats not in question. The problem is what we say.

    If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland, there’s an implication that the thing has not met that person’s expectations.

    People dont sail around expressing their opinion that they find something unattractive for that very reason.

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      6 days ago

      If someone says they find a phrase impolite, or that they find a meal bland

      And that’s an opinion too. That’s fine.

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        6 days ago

        You chopped my sentence in half in order to avoid acknowledging the point i made?

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          6 days ago

          The second half doesn’t change the essence of the phrase. If it does and I didn’t understand it - please elaborate.

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            6 days ago

            Having an opinion is fine.

            Stating that you have a negative opinion implies that something is unsatisfactory.

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                6 days ago

                Fine. Continue telling everyone which traits you think make a woman unattractive. Its just your opinion after all.

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        6 days ago

        Hottest thing ever. Tastes and smells revolting. Eventually kills the person, but fuck if my growing up in the 90s brain doesn’t immediately equate smoking with “ooooh mysterious, probably reads a lot of Russian fiction, hot af.”

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        6 days ago

        IMO this isn’t a special case. Most smokers don’t want to be smokers, they are unable to stop. It’s fine that you find smoking unattractive, but telling everyone just makes you a bit of a jerk IMO.

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          5 days ago

          Its wild to me verbalizing turn-ons and turn-offs is considered rude nowadays.

          It used to be considered prudent and realistic.

          Not wasting my time or their time is polite.

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            5 days ago

            If you don’t want to date people who enjoy role play, sure. It’s not rude to make people aware of that. Fine.

            If you don’t want to date people who are overweight, that’s fine. However, if you say that to someone they will probably find you to be a bit of a jerk.

            There was a time, decades ago, when smoking was much more common that it was seen as something more like a choice or preference - maybe vaping enjoys that category these days. Now that smoking is much more unusual it’s more like a type of substance abuse. Any smoker hoping to form a meaningful relationship would be aware that it’s an impediment.

            You can avoid wasting people’s time simply by not consuming it.