• Arghblarg@lemmy.ca
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    7 days ago

    I didn’t say it was anyone’s objective to be attractive to me. And it isn’t. I just have (as does everyone else) the agency to decide for myself what I find attractive or not.

    Thank you for pointing out the possibly ambiguity of my response though, so I could clarify.

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      7 days ago

      Do you decide what you find attractive? Or just observe and notice? Could you decide that something is attractive for you?

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          7 days ago

          We happen to be attracted to whatever we are attracted to… It’s subconscious, really, perhaps partly stemming back to childhood experienced and parentally instilled values…

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        7 days ago

        Yes, i decided by observing and noticing.

        That’s how attraction works.

        Im not just by default attracted to one hair style or a specific skin color.

        I observe and notice what attracts me and make a decision.