When I was young, I was naive to the ways of romance, and especially romantic communication. I was often oblivious to advances made upon me, and awkward and unskilled at making any expression of interest without just looking a bit foolish. However, after a lot of experience and many ups and downs in the pursuit of love, I find that I am no longer young.
I know these are generalities, but it’s sooo freakin common that it’s a well-known trope.
I’d actually go a step further and say that it’s not so much that men are “dense” as it is that they are full of self-doubt…I.e., seeing the advances, knowing they are there, but not believing that they are actually intended for them, or it’s a joke/prank, or for whatever other reason, they convince themselves that it’s not an advance and they are misinterpreting.
IANAD, but I’d guess this has more to do with mens mental-health awareness than anything else.
It’s a trope, but it’s also supposedly “well known” that men are horny bastards who think with their dicks… yet somehow we have these the two very opposing scenarios.
Personally, despite a rather distinct lack of interest from the “fairer sex” prior to college, I found that plenty of women were more interested in sex than me in later years and not particularly subtle about it, which was actually off-putting as I wanted a relationship with a bit more substances. A lot of guys I know were in the same boat. Sex was easy. Finding somebody who actually wanted to do activities together was quite hard.
The people who say that shit are almost always… the ones who do that shit. Every woman I know whines about shallow horny non-committal men… was talking about her own behavior and just blaming men for it. whenever they would meet a new guy they would go off about his looks and his money and other shallow traits, and then they would say they knew he wouldn’t commit but they didn’t care and would date him anway, and then if he didn’t commit she’d be so upset, but if he did commit… she’d dump him because there was ‘something wrong with him’. etc etc
Just like dudes who complain about shallow gold diggers… are mostly shallow gold diggers themselves.
Something I’ve noticed in myself, maybe because of the lack of interest from women at a younger age, is that women will almost throw themselves at you sometimes. Like, yeah I get it, I’m down for that too, but I won’t be able to make it move for you if I don’t know you ma’am.
When I was young, I was naive to the ways of romance, and especially romantic communication. I was often oblivious to advances made upon me, and awkward and unskilled at making any expression of interest without just looking a bit foolish. However, after a lot of experience and many ups and downs in the pursuit of love, I find that I am no longer young.
Men are dense and women are indirect.
I know these are generalities, but it’s sooo freakin common that it’s a well-known trope.
I’d actually go a step further and say that it’s not so much that men are “dense” as it is that they are full of self-doubt…I.e., seeing the advances, knowing they are there, but not believing that they are actually intended for them, or it’s a joke/prank, or for whatever other reason, they convince themselves that it’s not an advance and they are misinterpreting.
IANAD, but I’d guess this has more to do with mens mental-health awareness than anything else.
It’s a trope, but it’s also supposedly “well known” that men are horny bastards who think with their dicks… yet somehow we have these the two very opposing scenarios.
Personally, despite a rather distinct lack of interest from the “fairer sex” prior to college, I found that plenty of women were more interested in sex than me in later years and not particularly subtle about it, which was actually off-putting as I wanted a relationship with a bit more substances. A lot of guys I know were in the same boat. Sex was easy. Finding somebody who actually wanted to do activities together was quite hard.
The tropes are projection.
The people who say that shit are almost always… the ones who do that shit. Every woman I know whines about shallow horny non-committal men… was talking about her own behavior and just blaming men for it. whenever they would meet a new guy they would go off about his looks and his money and other shallow traits, and then they would say they knew he wouldn’t commit but they didn’t care and would date him anway, and then if he didn’t commit she’d be so upset, but if he did commit… she’d dump him because there was ‘something wrong with him’. etc etc
Just like dudes who complain about shallow gold diggers… are mostly shallow gold diggers themselves.
Something I’ve noticed in myself, maybe because of the lack of interest from women at a younger age, is that women will almost throw themselves at you sometimes. Like, yeah I get it, I’m down for that too, but I won’t be able to make it move for you if I don’t know you ma’am.