I really haven’t bothered to date in years for above stated reasons. When I meet new people, my intent is usually to get to know them and try to connect in some way. People tend to push to partner up or fuck within a few weeks of meeting and it’s almost invariably a resounding no from me. After that, ime, people don’t usually care to hang/ get to or get to know each other and either ghost or play endless phone tag until it’s not worth continuing. Add in me being a trans woman and the fact that 90% of men I meet online love to open with dick pics, VERY explicit flirting, or awkward confessional questions… and the men I meet irl are…. 😮‍💨 it’s like they’re racing the bar to the center of the earth.

There have been two people that I ended up with a much deeper connection with than expected over the last 3-4 years or so and both of those have turned into beautiful lasting friendships. Those are cherished and fulfilling in their own right but deeper romance feels like a pipe dream at this point.

I buried my standard years ago and mfs out here digging tunnels playing limbo with the bare minimum 😮‍💨

It would be so easy to implement a big red “oh fuck” button that, notifies customer service, puts the car into limp mode, and directs it to pull over.