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  • I see… I guess the saying just seems too simplistic. The happiness of a long-term partner is a tricky thing to manage. Like on one hand, I try to do what I can to make a long-term partner happy. On the other hand, I had to come to terms with the fact that sometimes they’re just gonna be unhappy because of things going on in their lives that I have no control over, or of traumas in their past they’re still struggling with, or of chemical/hormonal changes that happen because of life stages, etc. Sometimes it’s just a matter of getting them the help that they need and trying to be supportive. And there are pitfalls like being careful not to enable self-destructive behavior or abandoning your own happiness while trying to help them with theirs. So when I see a saying like that, it’s like a curse of reductiveness.

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