• ButteryMonkey@piefed.social
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    13 days ago

    Thats not better.

    Just because I’m not into what you are into doesn’t mean my life is lacking. You like chocolate, I don’t like sweets much at all but if I have to choose a flavor, I like the taste of un-flavored foods as much as I like a strong curry.

    Same thing. You see my life as lacking because of what you think I should like based on what you like, but it’s plenty rich in ways that actually speak to what I like.

    • MaxMalRichtig@discuss.tchncs.de
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      13 days ago

      You see my life as lacking […] based on what you like

      I think that is exactly the case here. People just can’t comprehend how a life other than their own would look like.

      I guess that also falls under the Dunning Kruger Effect?

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        I think that is exactly the case here. People just can’t comprehend how a life other than their own would look like.

        Oh, I can.
        For years I had severe clinical depression and it rendered me incapable of feeling almost anything towards my SO, friends and relatives.
        It was… I wouldn’t wish that upon anyone.

        Now medication at last is working and it’s like chalk and cheese.

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          12 days ago

          That’s… not the same as being aro at all. It doesn’t mean you feel nothing towards anyone. Just that you’re not interested in romantic relationships at all.

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        13 days ago

        Well to be honest I believe if I was given the option to not be weighed down by such feelings then I would take it.

        Really would make it easier to make genuine connections with people without my subconscious doing some funky shit.

        Now I could be wrong and I am assuming of course but I feel like a lot of those (not all) who are free from such urges prefer it that way and even if given the option to feel those things they wouldn’t take it.

      • ButteryMonkey@piefed.social
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        13 days ago

        Do you bother blind people about how they could experience the world if they were sighted, too?

        Like its a moot point, idk what you hope to gain here other than being a dick about how your way is better when I have no way to ever know, and you can never see my point of view either.

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          13 days ago

          Bother? If we would have a discussion with a blind person I would say, that I’m sorry too.

          You probably have thought it’s condescending, but I’ve meant it as compassion.
          And now you’re attacking me.