🤣🤣🤣 yeah ok, lololol. If you can’t see the benefit in the person in charge of all the money knowing who they’re dealing with, you’ll never grasp the benefit of small talk. Have a good day!
If you think I think a cashier is going to scam me because I didn’t talk to them then you completely misunderstood what I was talking about, just like I predicted.
What “benefit” does “someone in charge of all the money” being able to “evaluate your mental and emotional state” give you? And how would you expect me to take such a line of reasoning other than you having a paranoia about someone scamming you?
That’s just Lemmy, it won’t expand past that comment for me, happens a lot on here (to me at least). I’m too tech-illiterate to figure it out. You gotta admit tho, that sentence I was talking about was craaaaazy lol
I was describing ways in which being nice to strangers by default can benefit me, because you couldn’t understand it. You obviously still don’t. How about this one: Treat others like you want to be treated. When I’ve done a customer-facing service job in the past, I liked it when the customers recognized my existence and were kind to me. So that’s what I do for them. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ Sue me.
When did I “make a big deal about hating small talk”? All I said was I don’t care what is said, which is the definition of small talk. Don’t tell me you’ve been responding to the wrong person this whole time 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
You’ve been making an argument against the idea that people shouldn’t talk about things they don’t want to then be upset and say they like dislike small talk when I suggested they should instead either say nothing or talk about a topic they actually want to. You said you were answering the “if you really don’t care, why ask” part, and when I clarified that I was specifically saying to instead pick something you do care about the answer to (instead of picking something you’ll hate talking about and then complain about it, which is what that post you replied to was saying). I even reiterated. You even said it’s not something you want to do. So, I don’t really understand you when you say that you believe you’ve never made a big deal about hating small talk. The whole time I’ve been saying to just pick something you wanna talk about instead and you have disagreed with it as well as said you don’t want to do it. To me that certainly sounds like you’re saying you dislike small talk.
Maybe work on communicating your thoughts more clearly, because I don’t know how you expected me to think anything differently from the course of this discussion. It sounds like we agree, but you’re just intent on making it into a disagreement for some odd reason. It’s like you only read the first part of that first post and ignored the end and wanted to make me out to be someone who thinks they’re above talking to blue collar workers.
I’ve never suggested people shouldn refuse to engage in small talk, only that if they genuinely hate small talk, they shouldn’t feel obligated to strike up a conversation, or that they should actually choose a topic they want to talk about instead of choosing ones they don’t want to talk about and then complaining that they’re talking about something they don’t want to talk about.
I said I didn’t necessarily want to talk to them, as in I didn’t walk into the grocery store to have a conversation with the cashier, I walked in to buy groceries. I’ve found engaging in a modicum of unimportant chitchat facilitates this process. I have no feelings positive or negative towards small talk, it’s simply a tool for navigating society.
Speaking of unclear thoughts though, I have absolutely no clue what that derailed train crash of a first sentence is supposed to mean.
It puts them at ease so they can do their job accurately and efficiently. Maybe there’s a bag fee and I don’t have my reusable bags and they say don’t worry about it. Maybe they make sure to bag my groceries without putting a gallon of milk on top of a loaf of bread. Maybe it’s a restaurant I get food at periodically and they remember me being nice to them and they throw me a coupon or a free dessert. Maybe they were having a shitty day and just needed someone to look them in the eyes and see that they existed and making them feel better makes me feel better. Maybe they’re really Morgan Freeman God in disguise and they’re going to make me a deity for a day. I don’t know man, it’s just fucking nice. I don’t need another reason.
Do you really ignore blue collar workers who are doing a job for you and just refuse to speak to them for no reason?
Talking to someone about a topic you specifically say you don’t enjoy talking about only for the hopes that they’ll give you freebies isn’t nice, it’s actually pretty shitty. Like you view the purpose of a social interaction as a gamble to win a prize. Mind you, if you didn’t make such a fuss about hating the process of small talk, I wouldn’t think that, but because you say it’s something you don’t want to be engaging in, I don’t see how else to view what you’re saying as some strange transactional thing instead of human to human connection.
And no, I don’t refuse to speak to cashiers. If they talk to me, I answer. If there’s something I actually want to say, then I say it. I follow blue collar workers around my house so I can learn about what they’re doing because I’m curious. Don’t frame this as some sort of elitist snobbery when all I said was that if you don’t want to talk to someone about something that you either shouldn’t talk at all or choose a different topic you actually want to talk about.
You don’t need to talk to them at all. A cashier does not need to “evaluate your mental and emotional state.” If you don’t want to, don’t do it.
🤣🤣🤣 yeah ok, lololol. If you can’t see the benefit in the person in charge of all the money knowing who they’re dealing with, you’ll never grasp the benefit of small talk. Have a good day!
If you think a cashier is going to scam you because you don’t talk to them then I think you have some serious trust issues.
If you think I think a cashier is going to scam me because I didn’t talk to them then you completely misunderstood what I was talking about, just like I predicted.
What “benefit” does “someone in charge of all the money” being able to “evaluate your mental and emotional state” give you? And how would you expect me to take such a line of reasoning other than you having a paranoia about someone scamming you?
That’s just Lemmy, it won’t expand past that comment for me, happens a lot on here (to me at least). I’m too tech-illiterate to figure it out. You gotta admit tho, that sentence I was talking about was craaaaazy lol
I was describing ways in which being nice to strangers by default can benefit me, because you couldn’t understand it. You obviously still don’t. How about this one: Treat others like you want to be treated. When I’ve done a customer-facing service job in the past, I liked it when the customers recognized my existence and were kind to me. So that’s what I do for them. 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️ Sue me.
When did I “make a big deal about hating small talk”? All I said was I don’t care what is said, which is the definition of small talk. Don’t tell me you’ve been responding to the wrong person this whole time 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
You’ve been making an argument against the idea that people shouldn’t talk about things they don’t want to then be upset and say they like dislike small talk when I suggested they should instead either say nothing or talk about a topic they actually want to. You said you were answering the “if you really don’t care, why ask” part, and when I clarified that I was specifically saying to instead pick something you do care about the answer to (instead of picking something you’ll hate talking about and then complain about it, which is what that post you replied to was saying). I even reiterated. You even said it’s not something you want to do. So, I don’t really understand you when you say that you believe you’ve never made a big deal about hating small talk. The whole time I’ve been saying to just pick something you wanna talk about instead and you have disagreed with it as well as said you don’t want to do it. To me that certainly sounds like you’re saying you dislike small talk.
Maybe work on communicating your thoughts more clearly, because I don’t know how you expected me to think anything differently from the course of this discussion. It sounds like we agree, but you’re just intent on making it into a disagreement for some odd reason. It’s like you only read the first part of that first post and ignored the end and wanted to make me out to be someone who thinks they’re above talking to blue collar workers.
I’ve never suggested people shouldn refuse to engage in small talk, only that if they genuinely hate small talk, they shouldn’t feel obligated to strike up a conversation, or that they should actually choose a topic they want to talk about instead of choosing ones they don’t want to talk about and then complaining that they’re talking about something they don’t want to talk about.
I said I didn’t necessarily want to talk to them, as in I didn’t walk into the grocery store to have a conversation with the cashier, I walked in to buy groceries. I’ve found engaging in a modicum of unimportant chitchat facilitates this process. I have no feelings positive or negative towards small talk, it’s simply a tool for navigating society.
Speaking of unclear thoughts though, I have absolutely no clue what that derailed train crash of a first sentence is supposed to mean.
The train crash is you not replying to the most recent message in our conversation.
It puts them at ease so they can do their job accurately and efficiently. Maybe there’s a bag fee and I don’t have my reusable bags and they say don’t worry about it. Maybe they make sure to bag my groceries without putting a gallon of milk on top of a loaf of bread. Maybe it’s a restaurant I get food at periodically and they remember me being nice to them and they throw me a coupon or a free dessert. Maybe they were having a shitty day and just needed someone to look them in the eyes and see that they existed and making them feel better makes me feel better. Maybe they’re really Morgan Freeman God in disguise and they’re going to make me a deity for a day. I don’t know man, it’s just fucking nice. I don’t need another reason.
Do you really ignore blue collar workers who are doing a job for you and just refuse to speak to them for no reason?
Talking to someone about a topic you specifically say you don’t enjoy talking about only for the hopes that they’ll give you freebies isn’t nice, it’s actually pretty shitty. Like you view the purpose of a social interaction as a gamble to win a prize. Mind you, if you didn’t make such a fuss about hating the process of small talk, I wouldn’t think that, but because you say it’s something you don’t want to be engaging in, I don’t see how else to view what you’re saying as some strange transactional thing instead of human to human connection.
And no, I don’t refuse to speak to cashiers. If they talk to me, I answer. If there’s something I actually want to say, then I say it. I follow blue collar workers around my house so I can learn about what they’re doing because I’m curious. Don’t frame this as some sort of elitist snobbery when all I said was that if you don’t want to talk to someone about something that you either shouldn’t talk at all or choose a different topic you actually want to talk about.