• Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    Eating a multi course breakfast like this in bed would be both gross and inconvenient, let’s not lie to ourselves.

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    While not everyone should have kids and I fully support people choosing not to have any…

    You can have this and have kids. Just not every day. Unless you’re stupid wealthy and have a nanny or something.

    But maybe I’m weird and am one of the few that actually like my kids and having them around. Sure, they can be a pain in the ass sometimes, but not so much that I want to escape them or anything.

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      If you’re stupidly wealthy to have this daily? Kids are irrelevant.

      Reality is, people chronically online are incapable of raising a child because the reality is, they can’t imagine caring for someone other than themselves.

      Having a child to share your hobbies is awesome. You ever needed a coop buddy? They got you covered for years and years!

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        The people with this sentiment are largely jaded women who skipped kids and have to cope themselves and the next generation into sharing their spinster misery. It’s a tale as old as time lol. It’s this very weird phenomenon specifically with women to want to spread their misery to other women. It’s a hyper competitive behavior that seems to peak in their 40s/50s

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    One thing that no one ever told me about being a parent was that it would be so much fun. Getting to be the one who introduces another human to everything doesn’t get old. Is it challenging? Of course, but everything in life has pros and cons. The bond I have with the little ones is something I’d never give up and life before was easy-mode. You do have to grow beyond being selfish though. Some people can’t (and that’s okay, they shouldn’t be parents). That’s what this picture makes me think.

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      IMO: the reason I don’t want kids is because I can’t imagine myself saying: “Now, after a long day of work at my full-time job, I can’t wait to get home to my other, unpaid caretaker full-time job.” IMO being a good parent is hard work and I if I were to be a parent, I want to do it properly.

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      Yeah, I tell my kids all the time that without winter, summer just isn’t as enjoyable, and that even in late August and early September I’ll say, you know what, I’m ready to change it up. I don’t have this expectation of perfection from any facet of life, including my kids and the relationship I have with them. The bads and the goods are all part of the experience, and to me the experience is rewarding.

      But I absolutely don’t fault someone for wanting perpetual summer. Summer is great.

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      Yea I’m sitting here thinking I’d love for my kid to go all Kevin Mccallister on this and just watch how excited they’d be.

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    I’ve never understood childfree communities and posts. Is it because parents can’t shut up about their kids so you’re doing the same? Are your friends having children and you don’t like the change? Are you feeling pressure from family or society and rejecting it? Or shadenfreude for struggling parents?

    I just can’t imagine it as something positive. It always looks like people are seething about something.

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      As a child free person myself, I see it as more it being annoyed from all the pro-child people. I’m a guy so my push back was minimal. My wife has had many people talking to her for years about…

      how she will change her mind

      What if a future husband want kids

      Does your husband beat you and that’s why you don’t want kids

      She had to go through over a decade of telling her doctor before she was able to get anything medical so prevent kids.

      We have nieces and nephews. We love them. Kids are great, but just not for us. I think the people that post aggressively about child free probably had to go through a lot of BS like my wife did.

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        I’ll share my personal situation in return. I’m not a parent, but I’d like to be someday. And indeed I feel very anxious about losing my free time etc. That’s why I’m taking this a bit personally, these childfree posts are not helping me at. all. 😅

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        Thanks for sharing your experience! I can 100% understand and share how you both feel. It’s unacceptable to pressure someone into making choices that aren’t theirs. Not having a child is a personal decision that is not up to debate and should be accepted without justification.

        But that’s what I’m talking about. Child free content on social networks appears like an expression pride, joy or contentment, but feels to me more like an expression of hurt. Instead of celebrating what people love in their childfree lives, it always looks to be somehow addressed to parents to taunt them or revel.

        Idk. Maybe it’s like pride parades. People being oppressed for who they are want to openly proclaim their identities because it makes them feel good and I’m overthinking it.

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      My wife took my kids to a cafe yesterday and asked me if I wanted her to bring home a dessert, which I obviously said yes, who says no to that. I check out the menu and was surprised to see, under Desserts, Pancakes, Waffles, and French Toast. Was just happy to see someone putting them where they belong. I have no problem with any of them, but they are not breakfast food, they are dessert in disguise.

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      I went to London UK last year and there were so many places offering English afternoon tea. I tried one, and it was delicious, although I feel that calling it “tea” is a way of obscuring the fact that they just wanted to have dessert for lunch.