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  • It’s not about being rude it’s about not being nice

    The first words are ‘I’m always a little mean’ so I think rude counts. I understand the motivation for doing this, but this is a strategy that the more it is applied the less it works. The core issue is men taking small deviations from their expected social treatment as flirting, and I think that moving the expectation lower by being meaner means that it will take less ‘nice’ to accidentally communicate interest, thereby making it worse in the end.



  • I can’t fathom being so sensitive and so chronically online that you need to post a genuine Response to a fucking jokey post about girls needing to be a little mean to make creepy dudes go away.

    Oh no, I’ve replied to a meme in a non-hostile way without downvoting it and boosted its platform visibility. How dare I?

    If you ever wonder, “Why am I single? Why won’t someone date me?” It’s because you say stupid shit like this. You’re not a victim, dude, so stop acting like one.

    Engaged, but appreciate the concern for my dating life.


  • This is a pattern that if applied broadly feels guaranteed to spiral into the opposite of the desired outcome.

    1. Be rude as a rule to men

    2. Men interpret what was once ‘rude’ as normal behavior

    3. Stepping positively outside the new normal gets interpreted as possible sexual interest

    4. Now you are required to be even ruder baseline to avoid misinterpretation, and men just get treated worse socially.